Maren and Mark: Building a relationship with a demanding career
The iconic rom-com movie While Your Were Sleeping opens with the line, "life doesn't always turn out the way you plan. l just wish l realized at the time he was talking about my life."
I think in many ways this quote epitomizes Maren and Mark's relationship to this point. When you're young and in love, it feels like you've got everything planned out. When you're sitting down and planning out the future, you rarely think "I really look forward to a few years down the road when one of us is working all the time and never home, the other is at home alone raising three kids, and we live hundreds of miles away from our family and friends."
Life turns out differently than we plan, almost every single time. This is certainly true for Maren and Mark, and they've certainly learned that different doesn't necessarily mean bad! So long as you're flexible and willing to work with what you've got you can build a beautiful life, regardless of your circumstances!
Q & A with Maren and Mark
Do you have a song that's your couple song?
We don’t necessarily have “our song” but while we were dating, Mark wrote out the lyrics to “Lucky” by Jason Mraz for me which I thought and still think is really sweet! Name a way in which the two of you are similar. Name a way in which the two of you are different.
We have so many similarities which is why I think we work so well together! One similarity that sticks out is we are both content being at home with each other and our kids. We don’t need big outings or grand vacations to feel happy. We’re different in the fact that I (Maren) do lots of things on a whim. I don’t think through lots of the decisions I make, where Mark is really good at thinking through every little detail. It’s a good balancing act we’ve got going on! What's your favorite thing to do for the other?
Maren: Like most people, Mark works a lot, and even when the workday is done at the office, he comes home and continues working from home. I love surprising him with his favorite drinks and treats and just making life at home easy for him!
Mark: I like to play with my kids and let Maren unplug for a bit when I can. I wish I could do it more!
What are some traditions that you've established as a couple?
Every Friday we do “Pizza/ Movie night”. We eat pizza on the floor while we watch a movie! Our kids love it and look forward to it every week! What fictional couple do you relate with the most?
I’m going to go with Jim and Pam from the office! Not only do we love that show, but their relationship is just so low key, and they mesh really well together. I think the same about me and Mark. We don’t have it all together, and we can drive each other crazy at times, but overall, we just complete each other! What's your favorite TV show as a couple?
Parks and Rec! Did you guys agree on baby names?
Yes we did! Neither of us ever had super strong feelings over a name. Are there any specific relationship skills you're each working on right now?
We try really hard to remember each other’s love languages. It’s easy to remember how you like to be loved, but it takes a little more effort to remember and actually do your partners love language.
Thanks Maren and Mark! It was great talking to both of you!